29-April-2012
Good Evening Everyone!
Today I want to share some aspects of “Fear of speaking in public”:
1.
We fear
to speak in public because we are too self-conscious, because we give too
much of emphasis on what others may think of us if we say something stupid or wrong.
But the irony is nobody has time or
space to remember your every mistakes, yes they may remember your mistakes or
blunder for some time. But they all are
busy in their own life and their own troubles that they hardly remember
what you said.
It
is because of this short sightedness we don’t stand and learn to speak.
So much loss for this little fear, So much
loss for nothing!
I want to give a real life example to prove how
human memory works, how long it retains something. From a worst case
perspective: Suppose (I said suppose J) I die after few days , this is the worst case
the worst possible thing that can happen to me ( I encourage you all to
imagine) now how long you all will remember me , how long ? One month, two
months? I don’t know how long, but certainly not very long.
Now even if I die and the so called public
doesn’t remember me for long then who do you think cares about my mistakes, it
is a very natural human tendency.
2.
I want to
quote, an insightful thought from
Dale Carnegie’s book on this fear “ Fear, is the result of lack of confidence
and lack of confidence is the result of no knowing what you can do and that is
caused by lack of experience ” I want to repeat it “Fear, is the result of lack
of confidence and lack of confidence is the result of no knowing what you can
do and that is caused by lack of experience and the only panacea for experience
is to start speaking even if you don’t know how to. It is much like learning
how to swim or how to ride a bike until and unless you don’t take the plunge to
speak you can never learn the art of public speaking.
Thank you.
Can watch my speech on http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3RtI7YohLOI
Speak Ladakh You tube channel : http://www.youtube.com/user/SpeakLadakh
Speak Ladakh You tube channel : http://www.youtube.com/user/SpeakLadakh
